Some would say that it is impossible to remain friends with the former love of your life. I say that it's a necessity... especially when that man is my best friend in the world.
I've made mention of my sheer relief that this relationship part is over? Seirously, when we chatted the other day, I told him what I thought of his boyfriend skills (crappy) and that I really appreciated his friendship (enormously).
Every year that we have been together, there has been a name for that year, for us. The first year was before we'd divorced. It was called the "Year of Disengagement". For a number of reasons, we both felt the need to take the year to disengage from our feelings of angst regarding our then soon-to-be-exs. Last year was the "Year of Growing Closer" and that we did, both in time and in space. This year was tagged as the "Year of Finding Out"... which we alread did, so an addendum on that is the "Year of Redefining Us". From lovers to friends.
I know the statistics and I know the facts. And I still want him to be my friend. Trust me: it's much better this way.
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I understand what you mean. Sometimes it takes awhile before you can be friends...sometimes it takes awhile before the other feelings go away. But personally, if you can remain friends with an ex, I see nothing wrong with it...been there done that.
I love you, sister.
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